All The Ways You Can Cum: Different Types Of Orgasms And How To Achieve Them
Written by: Ashley Paul
Fact-Checked by: Dr. Inna Santkovsky, Obstetrics & Gynecology Specialist
Cum As You Are
I wager that most women would agree that an orgasm is pretty much the best natural sensation that your body can give you. Orgasms are nature’s candy. Unlike many not-so-healthy ways of achieving pleasure and enjoyment (I’m looking at you, alcohol while giving a major side-eye to cigarettes and addictive narcotics), the human orgasm offers an authentic, ecstatic, all-natural eruption of dopamine and other feel-good neurotransmitters. An orgasm is the rhythmic contraction of your pelvic floor muscles caused by stimulation of the clitoris and other areas of the genitals.
The physical and mental health benefits of having an orgasm are numerous and profound. Some of these benefits include:
Improved immune system
Regular menstrual cycles
Improved cardiovascular health
Stronger pelvic floor
Sex as exercise
Increased interest in having sex with your partner
Different Types Of Orgasms
There are many different types of orgasms that a woman can experience. No single type of orgasm feels the same for every woman. As the saying goes, everybody has a different body. Explore your body for yourself – it is quite an ample playground.
Vaginal orgasm (G-spot)
Deep vaginal erogenous zone orgasm
Erogenous zone orgasm
Exercise-induced orgasm (coregasm)
Clitoral Orgasm: Get Clitorate!
The clitoris is the pleasure hub of the female body. If you have a clitoris, count yourself among the blessed because the clitoris is the only human organ in existence whose sole function is sexual pleasure!
Nestled right under the point where the inner labia connect and form a small hood, the clitoris may appear to be pea-sized but in fact, it is not tiny at all! Your clitoris is like an iceberg; only a small part is exposed and the rest is hidden. Back in the day, clitoral orgasms were considered separate from vaginal orgasms, which is just not the truth. All female orgasms originate from forms of clitoral stimulation.
A remarkable study found that the clitoris is actually responsible for the g-spot orgasm. In this study an ultrasound was used on volunteers to figure out why the g-spot area is ultra-sensitive in the first place – the findings show that the area in question is literally connected to the clitoral root, which exists behind the anterior vaginal wall.
The award-winning mini-documentary “Le Clitoris” visually illustrates and explains that there exist two 4-inch roots that extend down from the clitoral gland toward the vagina. When women have a vaginal/G-spot orgasm or any type of internal orgasm they are actually experiencing that orgasm from a deeper level of the “clitoral iceberg”. In order to pinpoint where the other levels of the clitoris are located, I will refer to these areas by their colloquial names for the sake of convenience.
The clitoral orgasm can be achieved by stimulating the clitoris with your hand, a partner’s tongue, or sex toys. Cunnilingus is a favorite among many women for amazing clitoral stimulation and for good reason.
A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women on average take 14 minutes to orgasm from paired sex and 8 minutes during masturbation. Some women can have an orgasm in 30 seconds, while some take half an hour or longer. Getting head before intercourse is a great way to achieve orgasm because it can help level the playing field as far as timing goes. Keep in mind that orgasms are not a race and that it really doesn’t matter how long it takes to get you there. Sometimes the journey can be more fun than the destination.
The top of the clitoris does not lubricate on its own so feel free to experiment with some water-based lubricants. Massaging the inner labia or G-spot helps to activate the Skene’s glands and is a great way to get that natural lube. I will go into more detail in the section on vaginal orgasms.
How To Achieve A Clitoral Orgasm
Your clitoris has a lot of nerve endings. A great way to arouse the tip of your clitoris is by lightly rubbing it with your fingers in a circular or back and forth motion. When you start out gently you will be able to gauge how much pressure and what kind of touch you like.
Get repetitive! Repetitive motions are magical in that they create a cascade of tingly feels that tend to pile upon one another.
Take a second to feel your clitoris for signs of engorgement. The closer you get to climax, the larger it will grow, and the better it will feel. It is normal for your inner labia to also get puffy, wet, and sensitive.
Add some more pressure if you are on the cusp – you can also do so at the start of your orgasm to intensify it. Back off on the pressure if your clit is on the sensitive side. In that case, less is definitely more – experiment with super light strokes or circles.
Vaginal Orgasm (G-spot)
Congratulations! Did you know that you basically have a second clitoris? Well, pretty much. The G-spot is part of the clitoral network. The two 4-inch clitoral roots that stretch into the vagina form a small, bumpy area that is referred to as the Grafenberg spot, or G-spot.
Located approximately one inch inside the vaginal opening, the G-spot resides on the upper vaginal wall behind the belly button. Made up of nerve tissue, the G-spot is very sensitive and will swell during sexual arousal. It is about the size of a dime but sizes can vary between women.
Vaginal orgasms are the most difficult for women to achieve. Just because it is easy for men to orgasm this way does not automatically make it the preferred mode for us. If the G-spot doesn’t really do it for you, no need to panic. It is very common for women to be unable to orgasm exclusively via the G-spot.
According to a statistic from a comprehensive analysis of the 33 studies used by Elisabeth Lloyd in her landmark book “The Case of the Female Orgasm,” only 25% of women consistently orgasm during vaginal intercourse.
How To Achieve A Vaginal Orgasm
In order to find out what works best for you, try to use fingers or a toy instead of a penis.
Insert fingers or a toy into your vagina and make a “come hither” gesture toward your belly button. Circular motions are also recommended. Keep hitting the G-spot with strong, regular pressure.
If a particular motion feels good then repeat it so the sensation will build up to a crescendo!
Where there is smoke, there is fire. And where there is squirting, there is G-spot stimulation. “Sometimes when women are sexually aroused or stimulated there is an expulsion of fluid from the glands around the surface of the vagina during or before orgasm, though it’s still hotly contested where the fluid actually comes from,” explains sexpert Dr. Ross. The tissue around the urethra has also caused squirting for some. “No one really knows the exact number of women who experience a squirting orgasm, so with that uncertainty in mind, it was found that 10-50% of women have, at one time or another, had a ‘gushing’ moment during orgasm.”
How To Achieve A Squirting Orgasm
Stimulate your G-spot in the ways described in the G-spot section to increase the odds of squirting.
It can feel like you really have to pee right before squirting. Holding back from releasing your muscles because of the sensation is not going to help. It is best to relax and release.
If you are worried about the possibility of making a mess no problem – just make sure to lay down a towel before you give it a go.
Also if you can’t squirt don’t worry! There is no scientific proof that squirting leads to better sex so there is no reason to stress about it.
Deep Vaginal Erogenous Zone Orgasm
The clitoris and the G-spot aren’t the only hot spots in your vagina. The A-spot is located on the anterior (high front) wall of the vagina underneath the cervix. Sex researcher Dr. Hall explains that when either of these spots is stimulated, “It could cause the whole uterus to contract during an orgasm – there can be massive contractions in the whole area.”
The O-spot is another deep vaginal erogenous zone that can be found on the back wall of the vagina, nearly behind the cervix.
These areas are not visible to the naked eye. But do not be fooled – these ligaments house nerves that are highly responsive in some women.
How To Achieve An A-spot Or O-spot Orgasm
After inserting a finger, dildo, or penis, try to fill in the gap between the object and the high back end of your vagina. It may feel both pleasurable and intense.
Anal Orgasm: Lube It Or Leave It
Ah, the butt. For butt-lovers, a caress or even a playful smack on the buttocks is enough to drive them into a frenzy. Consider anal sex like driving a car off-road. It is thrilling but there may be some bumps along the way. A great way to smooth out said bumps is to use an adequate amount of lubrication.
How To Achieve An Anal Orgasm
Try rubbing the outside of the anal opening to relax your sphincter muscles.
If you want to stimulate the inside of the anus with a finger use tons of lube. Your anus does not produce its own lubricant. This makes the skin in and around it very delicate and prone to tears.
Take your sweet time. No amount of pleasure is worth a rectal tear. In addition, if you already have internal or external hemorrhoids penetration could theoretically irritate them and cause bleeding or pain.
As for understanding butt orgasms, try to indirectly stimulate your G-spot and the clitoral legs by experimenting with different angles. The clitoral legs or roots extend down to the anus.
Ask your partner for a butt massage. It will relax you and allow you and your partner to try out different methods of touch to see what you respond to. This can include light touch, firm touch, pinching, or even teasing with a paddle or a firm smack.
If having anal sex with a partner for the first time, start really slowly. If a finger in your butt does not feel nice then anal sex is probably not a good idea.
Communicate with your partner about how it feels. If it hurts tell them right away.
The combo orgasm is my personal favorite because it offers a pleasure plan that can be easily catered to the individual.
How To Achieve A Combination Orgasm
Stimulate your clitoris and G-spot at the same time with fingers, toys and/or a partner’s penis. This kind of orgasm is a great fit for women who want to experience a full-body orgasm.
You can also stimulate your clitoris while putting pressure on the A-spot or O-spot.
If you want to add some anal into the orgasmic mix consider buying a butt plug and using that while playing with your clitoris, and G-spot, A-spot, or O-spot! The options are pretty endless and creativity is king when it comes to the combo orgasm.
Erogenous Zone Orgasm
Have you ever felt a tingle after being touched on the soft skin of your neck, breasts, thighs or nipples? If that tingle felt inherently sexual then chances are you have found one of your many erogenous zones.
How To Add Erogenous Zones To Your Orgasm
Discovering where your erogenous zones are located requires a lot of experimentation on yourself, by yourself.
Take some time to feel your skin with either your hands or a feather and note which spots feel good.
Some fun places to explore include but are not limited to the breasts, nipples, neck, inside of the elbows, thighs, buttocks, and stomach. The nipples in particular are full of nerve endings and it is technically possible for some women to be able to orgasm from nipple play or suction, especially when used as a combination orgasm.
If you like having your feet touched then own it. The same goes for anywhere on the body.
Try touching your most sensitive skin areas while masturbating. If you have a partner go ahead and tell him or her about your favorite erogenous zones. Enjoyable sex and orgasms are built on the foundation of communication and trust.
Exercise-induced Orgasm (Coregasm)
Have you ever worked out so hard that you came? Well, neither have I — but believe it or not orgasms can be induced by exercise, especially with weight training, cardio and ab-focused workouts.
An interesting study from Indiana University found that 370 of 530 women surveyed had experienced an orgasm or got turned on sexually while working out their cores.
Using the Pelvic floor muscles (PC muscles) during exercise may cause contractions strong enough to launch you into an orgasm at the gym. The stronger these muscles get, the more likely you are to have a spontaneous orgasm.
Keep in mind that the majority of women will still require clitoral and/or vaginal methods to orgasm.
How To Achieve A Coregasm
Here are some poses that you can try out to trigger that core.
Hanging leg raises
Stand on one leg and lift your thigh out and in front of you perpendicularly. You can let your lower leg hang down or you can try to extend your leg completely. Leg raises can also be done lying on the floor with your belly button facing toward the ceiling.
In a slow, controlled fashion lift and lower your legs while keeping your tummy sucked in.
While sitting on the floor or on a yoga mat, bend your knees and keep your feet flat on the floor.
Place your hands on the sides of your thighs.
Slowly lean your torso back while keeping your back straight.
Straighten your legs and lift your feet off the floor so they are at a 45 degree angle from the floor.
Extend your arms in front of you while keeping them parallel to the floor.
Begin in tadasana (mountain) pose by standing up straight and tall with your feet together or 4-6 inches apart. Keep your legs parallel with the knees slightly bent.
Shift your weight onto the left foot then cross your right thigh over your left thigh. Try to hook your right foot behind the left calf if possible. If you can’t hook your foot behind your calf no biggie – the pose will still be effective.
Cross your left elbow over your right one like you are hugging yourself and bring the palms of your hands together. You can also bring the backs of your hands together if you want.
Try palpitating your core muscles while squeezing your tummy in.
A good night’s sleep is one of the most delicious things in the world. Not only can sleep recharge and heal us, but it can also unlock some very deep unconscious desires.
Once I had an erotic dream and woke up literally throbbing, wet and confused to say the least! Believe it or not some women can actually orgasm in their sleep during an arousing dream. A report shows that 37% of women have experienced a sleep orgasm by the age of 45.
But how does it work? During this type of orgasm you are not touching yourself or humping a pillow in your sleep – rather, it is actually your rapid eye movement (REM) that is provoking you to come.
“The REM cycle is like the active rinse and spin cycle of a washing machine,” says Jose Colon, M.D. It is believed that during REM your brain is as activated as when you are awake, only you are physically paralyzed.
That means that during this time of the night your dreams will be vivid and a sexual dream may feel super real. It is thought that sleep orgasms are caused by sexual dreams, which in turn causes blood flow to increase in the genitals. This is the same increase in blood flow that causes a woman’s clitoris to become engorged during arousal.