Updated: Nov 18, 2020
Written By: Kimberley Spinney
If there is one aspect of female sexuality that seems to confuse men and women alike, it would have to be the ever-elusive G-Spot. From trying to figure out where the G-Spot is to what it is, there are some things that are important for every woman to know in order to enjoy a healthy and enjoyable sex life.
In order to get the most out of your G-Spot as a woman, you should probably know what it is, where it is, and how to stimulate it for the best results. After all, we are all looking for the best orgasm, and knowing our bodies and the spots that make us scream is the best way to make that happen. And yes, this means getting as familiar with your G-Spot as possible.
What is the G-Spot?
First, let’s get down and dirty and talk about exactly what the G-Spot is and where it is located. It’s important to understand that it's actually a grouping of nerve endings and glands, very similar to the prostate in men. This cluster of nerves is typically located in the front upper area wall of the vagina (we will get into more about this later).
The reason we want to know all about the G-Spot is because this is going to take your sex life up a notch! We are talking seeing stars, epic sex (whether by yourself or with someone else), because these nerves, when stimulated, will increase your pleasure ten-fold. And this is important when you think that only about 18% of women are able to achieve orgasm with just penetration and no other sexual stimulation.
Your G-Spot is an erogenousc area of the vagina that will not only lead to a great orgasm, but also an increase in general stimulation overall. Seriously, you want to get familiar with your G-Spot if you’re looking to experience an all-encompassing orgasm that can shake your body from head to toe.
While it may seem like men have an easier time when it comes to finding what pleases them and sets them off, getting familiar with your body can improve your orgasms every single time. This means getting to know your G-Spot because it really can be the epicenter of a life changing sexual experience.
According to Healthline, the problem with the G-Spot is the fact that while the we have a general idea of where it is located, it's not a very distinct aspect of a woman’s anatomy, making it possible to miss the spot when trying to have a good time. Ultimately, this is because the G-Spot is actually a part of the clitoral network, making it so that stimulating the G-Spot or the clitoris is all connected (which can lead to some confusion for some). Essentially the cluster of nerves that we know as the G-Spot is actually an internal part of the clitoris, and for many of us, we already know what we like when it comes to clitoral stimulation, but we may not know how this impacts the rest of the nerve network.
Since things never seem to be easy for women, to make things more difficult, every woman’s body is different. This means that where the G-Spot is located in one woman may vary from another, which is why self-exploration is a must!
However, once you are able to locate this magical spot, using a come hither motion will create an epic sensation that will allow for a vaginal orgasm unlike any other. If you're really lucky, stimulating the G-Spot may even lead to squirting, an aspect of orgasming that some women think of as a myth (it’s not and your G-Spot can help make squirting an unexpected reality).
Finding the G-Spot
Finding the G-Spot, or the cluster of nerves attached to the clitoral network, may seem tricky, but one thing that is often talked about is actually doing self-exploration. After all, how can you guide someone to the spot that will make you feel good, if you don’t know where it is?
The best way to make this happen is to lie back, relax, and start by stimulating the outer area of the vagina first. From there, using either a finger or a toy inside the vagina can help lead you to the nerve cluster that will actually get erect with stimulation. Yes, this means feeling along the interior walls of the vagina, specifically the upper wall (or the top wall when laying on your back), in order to locate the nerve cluster that makes up the G-Spot.
Speaking of these nerves getting erect, typically this area of the vagina will feel like a spongy bump, which should help to make things a bit easier when it comes to locating the G-Spot. That bump will be about the size of a pea, which can help you to pinpoint the area more easily.
Applying firm pressure to this spongy area can lead to stimulation that will allow you to experience an actual orgasm via the G-Spot. Even during sex, there are ways to stimulate this area, including choosing the correct sexual position, such as Doggy Style, Cowgirl, and a variation of the Missionary Position.
So what does this all mean for you when it comes to where is the G-Spot and how to stimulate it for a hot orgasm? According to Health and Jennifer Berman, a female sexual medicine specialist and urologist, “Every woman is built relatively the same, but our anatomies can be different depending on our age, how many babies we’ve had, and our genetics.” And this means we should all be doing our own thing to find that spot that gives us the kind of orgasm that will have our eyes rolling and our bodies shaking.
If you find that locating the G-Spot is awkward because of where it is located in your vagina, then toys and your partner are your best friend. When it comes to actually using toys, opting for ones with an angle to them or that have been designed specifically for hitting the G-Spot are the way to go. Experimenting is key whether this means using your fingers or a toy or two, and remember it is all about having fun with yourself, as much as it is about enjoying a healthy relationship with someone else.
This self-exploration is all about finding what works for you. Whether that is using toys, your fingers, or getting an assist from your partner, getting to know your G-Spot will change your sex life in ways you never imagined. Believe me, once you locate this spot and experience the orgasm that follows, you’ll know what it means to truly experience “La petite mort.”